This week I wanted to share with you about Generation Y being raised believing we can have it all. As events in my life recently have evolved, I decided to share about daring to speak out.

As probably many of you outthere, I've been in an unhealthy relationship for a very long time. Longer than I've ever imagined I can keep up with. I've been silent about it for extremely long as well. I've been raised to be strong (which I somehow associated with being silent) and keep fighting on my own about the things I want and need.

When you've been under psychological abuse for a lot of years you start asking yourself - am I strong enough? am I right or am I going crazy? is it really me being the guilty one?. You convince yourself that you're in it alone and when you share your thoughts people will question and/or blame you - blame you for not trying harder. Question you whether you're sure about it? Have you thought it well through? And then you're back into the dangerous cycle of self-doubt, worry and guilt.

Luckily for me, my recent experience has shown exactly the opposite. I dared to speak up! I dared to share with colleagues (some of them not necessarily the ones I'd have described as the closest ones) and friends. I have openly said that I've been strugging in my relationship and that I've decided to go for separation. This was one of the most relieving experiences ever. I could see myself "glow" when talking about it. People around me who I shared with saw me glowing.

And I didn't expect anything in return, I just had the need to spell it out, to share that what seems to look ok from the outside, isn't and it's actually though and scary at times. I felt free and light sharing it. But more than that I've felt supported. I didn't even know why I'm sharing it, but I felt the urge to do so. The understanding and support I got in return are beyond my vocabulary to explain. My colleagues are texting me to check up on me. My friends were very supportive and offering support in anything I may need in this journey.

Even if I'll be the one to take action and still need to go through the painful separation, for the first time I felt I'm not alone. I even got "praised" for the courage to speak up and take an action. I felt an enormous amount of love and support around me and got the confidence that I can make it happen as I dared to speak up as a start.

I'm sure I'm not alone. I'm sure there are a lot of people out there in abusive relationships questioning themselves. Let me tell you "You're not alone"! Date to speak up your mind and change the little things around you. I promise you, it will make a difference. And if you feel the need to speak with someone, leave a message and I'd be more than happy to get in touch.

Yours anonymously