Yesterday, during a casual conversation about music with a friend, we touched on the fact that I used to listen to a lot of romantic music, especially a group called Sin Bandera. As we talked, I mentioned that I had stopped—or at least drastically reduced—listening to that kind of music, as the romantic part of my life had been shut down. I had simply had enough of it. He didn’t say much and we continued the music chat. But as I dropped my daughter at school today and the music played in my ears, I couldn’t help but reflect on the connection between my thoughts, emotions, and the energy I project. It began with the realization of shutting down my romantic side, but it quickly became clear that this goes far beyond just that.

If I’ve stopped allowing romance into my life, what kind of energy am I radiating to others? Am I unknowingly closing off the potential for new connections and experiences by holding onto these beliefs? It's indeed true that I've got hurt and not only by my ex, but also other relationship I value, but should I be surpressing a part of me that for good or bad is very strong - my belief in romance. And by doing that do I minimise the chances of living it once again as I radiate the opposite energy?

And then I extended this thought to other areas of my life, particularly my job.

I’ve often felt disconnected from my work, but what kind of vibe does that create when I interact with colleagues or approach daily tasks? Whether we like it or not, people do pick up on the energy we carry, and it shapes the way they perceive and respond to us. If I’m not passionate about what I’m doing or if I feel drained, that undoubtedly impacts the environment around me.

This made me realize how powerful our mindset is. The beliefs we hold, consciously or unconsciously, ripple out into the world around us. If I want to attract better experiences—whether in love, work, or friendships—it starts with shifting my energy and the way I think.

I’m starting to understand that what we focus on internally has a profound effect on how others experience us externally. This realization has been most obvious in my hobby—dancing. When I dance, I feel joy, I feel alive, and I think that energy is so observable that it naturally connects me to others. People gravitate toward that sense of happiness, and it creates a positive feedback loop. I’ve seen it firsthand in dancing, where my energy is in alignment with what I want to feel and attract. But what if I took that same approach to other aspects of my life?

If I want more positivity, passion, and connection, I have to start being intentional about the energy I’m putting into my day-to-day life. Recovering from past trauma, especially in relationships, has taught me that this is easier said than done. But it’s a reminder I need right now: it’s time to turn up the volume on the parts of me that I’ve kept quiet for too long. It’s time to stop letting fear, hurt, and disappointment dictate what I deserve.

On my personal growth to do list is to re-evaluate relationships and the time I send on each of them aiming to start intentionally investing time in the ones that connect closer with my energy and believes. At the same time, I’m putting effort into understanding my gifts and exploring how I can apply them to my next professional challenge. I want a career where I can thrive, where the energy I feel in dancing is mirrored in my work. That’s my goal.

The next time I hit play on a song, I’ll remind myself that the energy I spread is within my control. And maybe, just maybe, it’s time to bring that romantic energy back into the playlist of life. Because no matter what has happened before, I deserve to radiate hope, passion, and love—not just in my relationships, but in every part of my life. As always, I'll keep you posted on how those exercices and experienes evolve.