For good or for bad life is not black and white. People do things and act in certain ways based on various factors—current state of mind, beliefs, character, education, you name it. As human beings, we try to understand each other, but we also see things through our prisms based on our experiences, wishes, and, for some of us, emotions. But when is it time to burn bridges and turn the page? When does comprehending people and being patient reach its limit?

I’ve written lately about leaving the dancing scene as it doesn’t serve my emotional state. Here I am, ten days past my last night out. I have mixed feelings about it, and time will tell if it’s just a break or if I’ll actually change scenery. Unfortunately, that’s not the only bridge I’ve felt the need to burn lately.

I’m extremely grateful for some of the people I’ve met post-divorce. However, I also feel like some of the relationships I built before need transformation or even to be left behind. As someone who invests emotions deeply in everything I do, making these transformations or burning bridges hasn’t been easy. I’ve been torn between the need for a clean cut from my past and moving forward into my future. I assume this need for change has grown as I’ve been healing from the separation and the mess it left behind.

The challenge, compared to my divorce, is that there hasn’t been an escalation point in any of these relationships to support an emotional separation like I had with my marriage. So, I wonder, what’s the methodology to achieve this without a clear trigger?

In the coming weeks and months, I’d like to invest time and effort to reflect and understand how to leverage this need to completely shut off or transform few relationships and learn how not to repeat old patterns when meeting new people.

I’ll keep you posted on the revelations of this journey as time goes along. But as I’ve written many times - my belief is that we as human beings are capable of achieving anything we set our minds to. Thus I enter this new journey with the hope that this phase shall pass and will bring me a step closer to the woman, mother, friend, and partner I aspire to be.