Today was one of those days when it was just too much - too much work, too much  post divorce "family" planning, chores, etc. Even if it was tiring, it has begun with a kick ass coaching session - a session of reflections, emotions and planning. And here I am late on a Tuesday evening after an exhausting day, keeping up on my promise to myself and working towards my goals. There were quite some topics that came from the coaching today that I'd like to share with you, my audience, but I'll start with the one about communication and friendships.

I've kept my circle of friends throughout my journey abroad rather small, focusing on quality over quantity.  I have different groups of friends:

- the female crew with which we bonded in our twenties and kept until now. We're mostly same country of origin, got married and had kids at around similar time and all of us working moms

- colleague friends - the one I've met through work and we've connected initially though work, but grew friendships outside of it as well. Most of them older than me and in a lot of different countries and family situations

- mom's of my daughter's friends - we've connected through the common challenges of managing work, family, kids, etc, all from different cultures

- common friends created through marriage, mostly families with or without kids from various backgrounds

- last but not least, the few single ones which don't fit into any category but are very close and dear to my heart.

Through the journey of rediscovering myself and post divorce I've started noticing change in the dynamics of above groups. It's suddenly much easier to reconnect with the ones which didn't fit into any groups before. Now I have more time to connect on a deeper level with them and spend more time with them. The communication goes easily and focuses on the bright future.

The mom's group has disappeared in a way. Most couldn't discuss anything but the divorce and asking if I'm ok, so as the time passes those friendships started to fade. My female crew is the tricky one to judge how it will evolve. We do spend more time than we used to, but it's still too much around how are things past divorce and honestly I past that page 2.5months ago and would like to talk about different things. According to SAS for women this has to do more what people own struggle than mine, but you can check more about it here.

On the other side the colleagues and ex-colleagues group is a very interesting dynamic. While with some we bonded because of common work challenges, with some I bond on the personal level as they have either gone through the similar situation or were in a similar situation. Somehow this is the group I haven't felt judged by for moving on, on the contrary I got support through the whole process and with some continue the meaningful conversations on growth and what's next in life. We laugh, exchange tips, occasionally manage to meet for work and even started making plans to meet for fun as well.

In conclusion, as I navigate the web of post-divorce life, I've come to appreciate the fluidity of friendships. Some have withstood the test of time and transformation, while others have taken on new forms. The one constant  that remains is the importance of embracing change and nurturing connections that align with my evolving self. As I move forward, I choose to focus on those who uplift, support, and contribute to meaningful conversations about growth and the future. The journey of rediscovery after divorce isn't just a solo expedition; it's an opportunity to surround oneself with a tribe that understands the complexities of life's chapters.

So here's to the single friends, the colleagues turned confidantes, and the ever-evolving dynamics of connection. In the chapters to come, I'll continue to cherish those who have been steadfast, appreciate the lessons from those who've faded away, and welcome the new connections that will undoubtedly shape the next pages of my story. After all, in the tapestry of post-divorce life, the threads of friendship are woven with resilience, understanding, and the shared laughter that reminds us—no matter how complex the journey, we're never truly alone.